Guide · First booking

Your first enquiry: 8 things to clarify before booking a companion

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Writing that first message can feel like a big step. You don't need to know the right words or have every detail figured out – but a few clear points make everything easier, safer and more relaxed for both sides.

Here are the eight things worth clarifying before you meet. A good companion will be happy to talk about every one of them.

1. The occasion

Is it a dinner, an event where you'd like company, a quiet evening at home, or a few days away? The occasion shapes everything else – the place, the time, even what he wears. Say it plainly; there is no wrong answer.

2. Date, time and duration

Suggest a date and a rough time, and how long you'd like: an hour, an evening, a whole night. If you're unsure, start shorter. Many women begin with a first drink of about an hour and decide afterwards.

3. The place

Your home, your hotel or another private place? For a first meeting, a hotel bar is ideal: neutral, comfortable and discreet. Make sure the address you give is accurate – honesty about the place is part of mutual trust.

4. Your wishes – and your boundaries

You don't have to explain everything, but it helps to mention what you're hoping for and what you'd rather avoid. A professional companion asks rather than assumes, and respects a “no” at any moment, even if something was agreed earlier.

5. Price and what it includes

Ask for the exact price before you meet, ideally in writing. Is travel included? Drinks at a first meeting? What about the hotel room or dinner? Clear, published prices are a good sign; vague answers are not.

6. Payment

How and when do you pay? Cash at the start of the meeting is the most discreet option – nothing appears on your bank statement. For long bookings such as a whole night, a deposit is normal; ask how it works and what happens if plans change.

7. Safety for both of you

A short confirmation call or message before the meeting protects both sides – it shows you are both real and serious. Remember that either person can end the meeting at any time, no explanation needed. Feeling safe is not optional.

8. Privacy

Ask what happens with your details. Are they deleted after the meeting? Will he contact you afterwards? The right answers: your data is not shared, it is deleted, and any further contact is your choice.

With these eight points clarified, you can relax and simply enjoy the evening – which is the whole point.

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